I used to work with this girl, who talked about how her and her boyfriend (who was a manager at another store) would have anal sex all the time. I was intrigued by this, partially because I thought she was crazy, but also assumed that she was fairly vanilla in bed. The two of them had nearly a decade in age between them, and she ALWAYS had some story about a fight. I had the “pleasure” of meeting this guy once, on a triple date, it was awkward, and he spent most of his time making a point not to talk to anyone else. Needless to say, I decided, anal sex or not, I didn’t like the man.
Fast forward almost 2 years and I met him again. It was a chance meeting, a flirty exchange, and a quick goodbye. He ended up getting my number from a mutual friend, and he asked me on our first date.
I wanted to fuck him right away, after all, I had heard the man lived for anal sex, and I was a big fan of anal sex. We waited for about a month before we crossed that line, and when we did it was good sex, but not even some anal play. I came to the conclusion that “Can I put it in your ass?” wasn’t exactly a question you ask the first time you have sex. I also realized that I was making excuses as to why a man hadn’t fucked me in the ass, which brought a little smile to my face.
After a few months of dating, and no anal sex, I casually brought up the story that his ex used to tell me, about their anal adventures. At first he just looked at me, and then he said “Oh wait, you’re serious, I’ve never been into anal, in fact, I’ve only had anal sex once and it wasn’t with her.”
I found myself being both very bummed out, and then mad. Part of my attraction to him was the idea that he was into anal, now all he had was his personality, the okay sex, and the fact that he was physically cute. Sadly I have to say my desire for him slowly faded over the next few months, until one day it just wasn’t there. I still think the man is very nice, but I have no desire to touch him ever again.
Is it bad to “unlike” someone when you find out they don’t like something you do? Or is it bad to base your desire on someone based on what you’ve heard?
I don’t think it’s bad to unlike someone for something you find out later they are or are not into. Sounds like part of the fun with him was the fantasy of anal sex. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a change of heart once the fantasy was gone.
Just courious what do you like about anal sex so much? Why is it fun from a womans perspective?
BTW you need help me get Lilly little more on board with anal
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I don’t know that every woman likes it, or that it’s the same from every woman’s perspective, but I like it because of the sensation I get. When a man is sliding in for the first time every hair on my head stands on end. Similarly, I get really wet and aroused when I have a butt plug in for a while.
Tell Lilly I’d love to tell her about my experiences, and answer any questions she has, though some women just don’t like it…