To help @Sexhero and I fulfill some group fantasies we recently posted an ad on craigslist soliciting other couples. We weren’t really sure what to expect in return, but we had high hopes going into it.
The post has been up now for a full day and we’ve gotten a few very interesting response, as well as A LOT of single men, which isn’t really something we are looking for. Our ad describes us as a bi couple, one of my fantasies is using my strapon on another woman, as well as getting taken by two men. His fantasies include having two women sucking his cock at the same time, so really there’s not a lot of room for a single man.
I found it interesting, when we started getting responses, how the woman’s sexual identity is described. Nearly every post in which the woman is described as bi, she is described as “very bi” (this coming from the man’s voice). This made me wonder, is it described this way to simply share that she is in fact bi, that they aren’t making it up; or is it possibly described that way to make the woman seem more sexually attractive? I know in porn, girl on girl is a man’s dream, so by saying she is “very bi” does that mean she is better than someone just described as bi?
Now, I’m not going to write people off simply because they added the word “very” to their description, but I must say it’s initially a bit of a turn off. I’m described as simply bi, and I’m happy with that, but I wonder; would adding the “very” have made a difference in our initial posting? Would I have been more attractive?
We were talking about this earlier (as you probably remember) and I think it’s probably because female bisexuality is impressed upon you as part of being a sexual woman. They may be saying that she ACTUALLY is bi, not just pressured to be so. Basically, I think it’s a reaction to socio-sexual expectations for this kind of situation.
cha-ching
That is so interesting. I don’t think “very” has much to do with attractiveness, rather I think it’s more about convincing – either convincing the person who posted the ad or convincing the person who wrote the ad.
I look forward to reading about the outcome of this ad!
xoxo Lilly
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