So as you all know if you’re following @sexhero and I that we recently posted an ad looking for another couple to fulfill some of our fantasies. One of the big fantasies for @sexhero is having his dick sucked by more than one woman at the same time, which really only requires a threesome, not a whole couple. @sexhero has another lover he’s with sometimes, and upon first glance it seems his fantasy could be easily made a reality with the 2 lovers, the problem is my feelings about it.
I find that when I think about it my issue lies with how I will feel during the act if it ever happened. When I think about it I feel like I would much rather grab the hottest girl off the street instead of his other lover, and then I wonder why I feel this way.
When I’m thinking about threesomes and love triangles I think there are a couple ways that they could really work in a healthy way. The way I think I would prefer would be the open couple decides to bring a third piece into the equation, with an important part of the equation being that the third piece doesn’t already have a sexual tie to someone in the couple. Another way I think this could work would be three people who have no sexual ties, but then develop them together.
Having the third piece be someone with a sexual tie to only one player will automatically bring out the jealous human nature of a person. They have history. Who’s better? Who is coming home at the end of the night? Is she hotter than me? I know @sexhero never compares his two lovers, but deep down I think I would be constantly comparing.
At the end of the day, I’m more than willing to share, and to be in the sharing; I just want to be completely comfortable with the situation, and know I’m the one he’s coming home with.
I absolutely agree and relate to your feelings. Ash and I are not open to swinging, but we have considered having a third party involved at some point in our relationship. But because we know at the end of the experience that we want our relationship in tact and better than it was before that we would have to hire and pay someone to be our third. That way it is strictly business. There is a barrier there for everyone. She’s performing for the money. There is no emotion. No question. Of course there will always be room for comparisons and insecurities, but just like you were saying, at the end of our experience we’ll hand her cash and Ash will be coming home with me.