Not to brag, but it’s been a great couple of weeks for new love encounters, making out, and getting it on (Spring is in the air). Despite my physical connections being with men across the board, they sadly all had one thing in common, “I know I should last longer.” On the surface you’re probably thinking in giggles or possibly ‘what a bummer for her,’ but really it was a let down to an otherwise fun encounter.
I’m not quite sure why suddenly men are so concerned about “lasting like a porn star,” I mean they realize it’s a movie right? Batman doesn’t really jump off the Hancock building in Chicago, and Evan doesn’t really pound it out for 30-40 minutes straight. If I’m getting off, you’re more than welcome to get off. Hell, you can even get off without me if my mouth is just that good. Men have other tools, and surprise men, your cock will get hard again someday!!
Each lover I’ve had in the past few weeks has done their job, we had some fun, and then suddenly I’m struck with this sadness when I hear, “I know I should last longer than this.” Chill out! Have some fun, you are fucking a girl who wants to be pleasing you as a response to her pussy now dripping from cum. The takeaway guys: It’s way hotter to own your dick and show appreciation than to not have fun and stress about a problem that’s not really a problem.
Now ladies, we are falling into this same illusion. We don’t have to make a guy “cum” (by this I mean ejaculate) every time they stick it in a hole. If you’re a squirter like me then you can relate. Sometimes you get off, come hard, and still want more, but you don’t have anymore “juice” left in you. Guys can have the same thing happen to them. Some of my favorite sessions involve getting my lover off quick, and then laying back while he tickles my body into uncontrollable spasms, then rams me hard with a dick that can cause pleasure to all parties rather than worry.
Basically, I think sex should be fun, and not a chore. It should be pleasurable, and not something that causes anxiety and worry.
Own your dicks & pussies. Cum when you want. And always thank me for a good time.
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Why does cuming equate to sex being over? The secret to lasting all night is in getting over this notion. When the Mrs and I plan on making a long night of it, we both cum several times during the length of the session, (her several times more than me of course). My first orgasm of the night does cum rather quickly. But with each one after that takes longer and longer to climax.
Sex does not mean sticking something in a hole. While waiting to get hard again we will do all sorts of fun things! From stroking with finger tips and feathers and a massage. Talking about sexy things we could do. Anal play for the either of us or I’ll just go down on her and use toys until I’m hard again. I love when she fingers my ass while sucking on the head of my resting cock. That doesn’t take long to get me hard again.
What really gets me hard quickly is when, after having had cum a few times already, I’ll eat all my cum out of all her orifices, fantasizing it was several other men’s seaman mixed in with mine. If I have a plug in while doing this, I fantasize about someone taking me in the ass while eating everyone’s cum.
Ok, this may be TMI, but all I’m saying is, relax… take your time. Sometimes the time in between is the hottest.