Up until recently I worked for an institute of higher education, wore business casual to work, and conversed with high school students about their choice in colleges. Looking at me you wouldn’t guess that I had a double life, a life that few people know about, but is a large part of my life.

I spend a lot of time writing, researching, and planning how I want people to see me on here, and how thinking I will keep the lives apart for those who would be offended or just wouldn’t understand. I’ve met a lot of people through this life who I think are in the same boat, no real names, no pictures of their faces. I think it’s a shame this is how it “has” to be.

As much as I wish I could “out” myself online completely, I have a certain appreciation for how I can be who I want and not think about how it will effect things in my life, or think about what others will think. At the end of the day I like my second life, and my first life, and I applaud those to “out” themselves, as well as those who have found a way to live the life and lives they’ve always wanted.